9-8-1a
Awaken from a dream feeling very insecure. Been avoiding for more than three days now financial (and other) work I have to do. Suspecting I'm not so healthy as I want to think I am. Making connections:
1) in the back bedroom of 1728 and at the same time, in an intersection like Peterman's Corners: we, the employees of the place where I work (atc?), are getting ready, lining up, to march in a marching band. The only person I recognize (now) is Ceil (and maybe it is Rita who directs this operation, but I don't recognize her.) Ceil is very insecure, introverted to the point of not speaking. I understand and do not press her to speak. I love her for this, i.e., I empathize. Someone must carry the colors and since no one else wants to, I reluctantly volunteer. [I choose to take the company's position?] I put on a red and blue revolutionary war-type uniform in order to do this. [An outmoded form of dress = an outmoded way of thinking?] In a lull, while we await directions, or the signal to start, or something, Ceil is lying on the floor (ground.) I lie down with her, aligned with her in the same direction, my head on her knees. She puts her hands on my shoulders and "holds" me, as if to communicate that she understands and is sympathetic. When we prepare to line up, a black guy [Mark Copeland?] hurries up to us, arriving late, and complains because he was supposed to be the color bearer. I say, "Go ahead. I only took the position because no one else seemed to want it." I give him the uniform.
2) 640: I awaken, late for work. It's seven o'clock. I struggle to get ready, torn between rushing out unprepared and going through the ritual of preparation (washing, putting on clean clothes, etc.) Rita shows up. She is outside the dining room window on the north side of the house, but she speaks to me as if she's inside the house. She wants me to drive her to work. (We don't work in the same place any more.) I tell her I'm late, but she doesn't care. She persists until I tell her I'll take her.
In the car (old Toyota), I drive her through a nondescript area to Monroeville Industrial Park. It seems she is going to drop me off and take the car. I don't like this plan. I don't want her to drive my car. I don't trust her. We are instantly back at the intersection of Rodi and Hoover. She wants to get some breakfast before we leave, even though I protest that we don't have time. By now, I am very late. We go into a small diner-type restaurant.
Back outside, Rita walks up the hill into an overgrown area [which is Hoover Drive.] We make our way through the brush onto an old paved road that is only partially visible, having been disused for years and become overgrown with vegetation. The farther up the hill we walk, the more visible the road becomes. Houses, sparse at first, become more plentiful. But they are cut off from this old road by overgrowth and only accessible from the other ends of the streets they are on that run perpendicular to Hoover. We walk back down to the intersection where we meet Sherry, but she is different. She looks exactly like Rita, except that something about her eyes makes her much more attractive. I have a squeeze bottle full of a special, delicate liquid soap. Rita wants some of it. She goes off to get a container to put it in. Meanwhile, Sherry wants some too and walks up to her house. I follow her, being very attracted to her. She explains to me that she's living in ____ (somewhere east, about thirty miles away.) We come to a small cottage-type house partially obscured by overgrowth. I wonder, if she is living in the east, why we're going here. She explains, in response to a question I never ask, that she's renting rooms here. Inside, we meet an old lady, who questions her, being the stereotype of a busybody landlady. Sherry tells her she's here to get a small bottle for some soap, and she goes upstairs, leaving me with the landlady, but after a short while, feeling uncomfortable, I follow Sherry upstairs. I know she's up there somewhere, but I can't find her. I think I hear her go up a second flight of stairs, so I go up, only to find two lesbians sitting at a table, reading and studying. They look up at me in an unwelcoming manner. I say I'm looking for Sherry. They tell me she's not up here. I go back down and search the second floor apartment more thoroughly, and although I know she's in here somewhere, I can't find her. We all appear again back at the intersection. Sherry and Rita have small squeeze bottles, about a fourth the size of mine. I fill them with soap from my bottle. Rita's bottle is identical to Sherry's except that it doesn't have a cap [like Sherry is identical to Rita except for the eyes.] I worry that the stuff'll leak out. ["Soap" is the stuff I give them, which fills them up, but it may leak back out of Rita, whereas it won't out of Sherry, because her eyes are like a cap??]
Ceil = me (re insecurity) I am like her, or I was, but I am more "advanced" now (and then) than she. She can look up to me because I have, to a great degree, overcome what she has not. This is a past me looking up to myself at a future date, comforting myself, because I understand how much worse it used to be.
Late for work = avoiding working at what I know I need to do. I wonder if all of those past dreams of being late for work have this same interpretation. Probably. "Work expands to fill the time necessary for its completion." Until I must do the work, I don't, and thus I avoid feeling better, when, if I could just do it and get it done, I would feel better right away. But, feeling better
a) is not necessarily being better; it could be an illusion, like financial security is an illusion. (But it's a nice illusion.)
b) may actually contribute to the problem if it delays an effective insight into it. Feeling fearful may drive me into a deeper insight, whereas "solving" the "problem" via action may further delay the insight therapy.
So, is it better to wait until the last minute while pondering the nature of the disturbance? I don't know. Maybe. But it sure is nice to be free of the negative feelings, even if the activity that frees me is further avoidance of the real problem by attending to the compensation.
Overgrowth = the "road" (re direction) is overgrown and hard to find.
A marching band must have an excellent sense of coordinated direction. Thus, I am getting ready to march with a band. That is, I am doing therapy.
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