I was selectively erasing old movies off of tapes last night, and one of the films was JC Superstar, which I wanted to save, so I began scanning through it, watching my favorite scenes, one of which is "I Don't Know How To Love Him." [I didn't realize it was Easter weekend. Being sort of a pagan (not really, but...), I don't keep up on the major holidays, and unless some reminder pops up, I don't know they're here or coming. So, don't you think it's kind of funny--that I would have coincidentally been watching JC while not knowing it was Easter weekend? Hmm. Maybe there is a personal God and He's sending me a message. Nah!]
Then I fell asleep and had a dream: I'm a postal worker, delivering mail out of a truck, which I have parked on a steep hillside. (Life is a steep hillside.) Another postal worker, a nice woman, a blond, is also delivering mail on the same road. She takes an interest in me. (She doesn't seem to think it's odd that I'm working the same route as she is.) I am an imposter. The mailman thing is a disguise. In order to avoid becoming revealed to her, I keep my distance, even though she seems to want to associate with me. But, after saying a few brief words to her, I stand off, farther down the hill. I don't want to get too close, because if she gets to know me too well, she'll discover I'm not a real mailman. (Hmm.) She comes down to the bottom of the hill where I am and stands nearby, hesitant to approach me, but wanting to. She says something about not wanting to get involved with me, that she's sorry, but she can't get too close. I recognize this, while I'm dreaming, as my idea, not hers. i.e., she's empathizing with me, feeling what I'm feeling and stating it as if it is her own feeling [Of course, from a perspective outside the dream, we can see that it is all my feeling, hers and mine. She's me in another disguise telling myself I don't want to become involved, with myself, I don't want to know what it is I'm really feeling, I don't really want to know the truth that lies within. She (the anima) is the one who wants to get closer; I (the ego) am the one who wants to stand off.]
So, I awaken and begin to analyze the dream in terms of JC Superstar. Was this JC's problem too? Did he want to, or need to, keep women (those intuitive components/symbols of his own internal self) at a distance, to avoid physical contact? Why would he? To promote his spiritual self, of course; to develop his own internal/external balance. Women represent the ways of the world to a man. And at the same time, they represent the anima, the spiritual self within. So, to avoid women in the physical world is to search for the woman within. Mary Magdalene is attracted to Jesus, because he stands off from her physically and yet is psychologically, or spiritually, or whatever, totally available to her. I know this situation, intimately. I've been there, many times. Even way back when I was totally unconscious of the mechanism, it functioned. Women have always chased after me--for this very reason, I conclude: I allow myself to be available, but never physically except under the most rigid conditions.
(Pun intended.)
So I am not so much like Jesus, then, am I?
I do physically avoid women who are interested in me--but only until I know their intentions and (mostly unconscious) motivations well. Then I may act or, more likely, give them tacit permission to act themselves. But as I grow in "wisdom" (I guess that's what it is), as I learn to consciously discern motivation, I realize that, inevitably, if I act, if I become physically involved, there will be problems. It's unavoidable, given the differences between the sexes. (But maybe it is unavoidable in any case.) But if I do not act, if I refrain, yet remain otherwise open, things go on the way they are, maybe not with any particular woman, but with women in general. (This should apply to men too, if I am to be universal, but I am not that brave--or am I merely unconsciously homophobic? or homosexual? They're the same thing really, one being denial and the other admission. I should remain open toward everyone, so that no agenda is harbored. But I am not.) It's a shame, that I have this innate ability that I rarely ever use, or even attend to [I've had it since early childhood, as far back as I can remember, although I did not attend to it through my earlier years, and do not attend to it often now, for example, through the winter when I will become increasingly closed off, or any time, when circumstances impinge upon me, threatening my psychological integrity. I would never stand for allowing the lepers to drain me of my psychic energy (as depicted in the film)]: to open myself up to people, especially women, even when I am totally unconscious of what is going on, so that they will feel what I feel, and vice versa, so that we will become like one being--because that is what we really are, after all, one undifferentiated organism, on the spiritual level, and one less-differentiated organism on the psychological level. (It is only on the physical level where things become confused. I am a physical being, after all. But I don't so much like it, when it comes to existing within a physical world where cause and effect are so specific.) Women appreciate me for this ability open up to them, but only until they realize that they cannot command it exclusively, that I will not be only "theirs," alone. Then, they keep their (physical) distance (because they do not trust me--or themselves--to remain a separate being, they do not want to feel what it is I feel if they cannot feel it physically as well, if they cannot enter into an (at least temporary) exclusive physical relationship with me. (Actually, they could, very easily, but they do not know how; it is not within their natures. They don't know how to love me.)
When women become aware of me, after a while, as women do, they begin to share their insights with other women, after they decide that I am just too far away for them to reach within their physical world, and they realize that I am a different kind of man. Or maybe not, Maybe they assume that I am exactly the same, but better at it--or worse. Maybe they never see the spiritual side. In any case, I begin to become famous, or infamous, depending on the point of view of the particular coven.
I don't think I want to become famous, in any way, because with celebrity comes responsibility, and I want to remain irresponsible. I'm having fun right now and I don't want it to end. Commitment ends the fun. I know. I've been there. Being famous, for me, is just a subset of responsibility, as is commitment. I don't want to work so hard any more at trying to appease an ungrateful social order that exists to govern the whole at the expense of its individual components. I'd rather just "work" on my own, at my own tasks, independent of a need to "earn" a living.
Existing within a physical world where each person must assure his or her own survival is like living in a war. You've got to be on continual guard against attacks on your resources. War teaches you to keep your guard up, to protect your individuality, which may come under attack at any moment. We are each a slave to the environment we find ourselves in, which is usually a war zone.
I remember being taught in high school that the civil war was fought, not over slavery, but over states' rights. That view is still espoused to this day, even though it's an inherently racist one. [It's intent is to diminish the victimization of slaves by drawing attention away from their oppression and onto the "more important" issue of the right of a state (considered as if it were a separate nation, which is what state's rights was/is all about)]. The civil war was not fought over states' rights. It was fought over slavery. And one simple fact proves it: the Confederate constitution disallowed any state to abolish slavery, thus establishing Confederation's authority over states' rights, making the issue of slavery more important that the right of an individual state to determine its own essence. In doing this, the Confederacy violated its own motive: it fought to free itself from the domination of a federal government that tended to want to abolish slavery, which it felt was the right of each individual state to allow, but in establishing its alternate government, it created a mirror image of the very thing it fought to escape from.
This is what I do. This is what I become, that which I fight so hard to avoid. This is what happens to anyone, eventually, when they exist within an environment. You cannot live apart from your environment. Always, you submit to its nature and surrender your identity.
RULE #3
You can't escape the responsibility of your existence.
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